• Essay

    Decision fatigue and disentangling from it through service: a real-life application

    Our brain can only make so many choices throughout the day. We count on a limited resource to make them. It’s the premise of the phenomenon of “decision fatigue”. Barry Schwartz explores it in “The Paradox of Choice”. The fewer choices I have to make throughout the day, the better I function, and the more I can concentrate those resources into work. My submissive, as part of her service to me, is of great use when it comes to minimal spending and minimum waste. I’m able to delegate many tasks and decisions to my submissive in the best of cases. If unable to, I do it myself knowing “future me”…

  • Essay,  Female Led Relationships

    Regaining headspace when “life” gets in the way: maintenance spanking

    Regaining headspace when “life” gets in the way: maintenance spanking The concept of maintenance spanking is often linked to heteronormative Judeo-Christian marital domestic discipline practices based on biblical gender roles and sustained by bible verses, sometimes found by the name of the “Taken In Hand” (TIH) relationship model. “Female Lead Relationships” (FLR) might also partake in them; all of which wish to set themselves as far apart from BDSM due to the strong stigma our lifestyle and practices have. For our purposes, I’m stripping it from all of that and making a point of approaching maintenance spanking from a gender-indistinct point of view focused on power exchange dynamics using the…

  • Essay,  Female Domination,  Female Led Relationships

    Regaining Our Agency In FemDom Through The Female Gaze

    Men and their desires have always been at the center of Female Domination. “It was men who coined the phrase,”  Elise Sutton wrote in their article What is Female Domination and Female Supremacy? ”to categorize their sexual desires to submit to the female gender” The female gaze isn’t part of it. It seldom has been, which is why turning the tables and prioritizing our gaze and our desires over theirs, making them the center of it, is an important aid in ceasing to be being the objects of Female Domination, instead, being the subjects. Femdom literature, artwork, photography, and other artistic portrayals, have been fashioned predominantly by men. It’s the…